It's been a while since I have blogged about anything. Grad school has kept me very busy. The second semester is almost done, so that means a Summer of blogging! But I digress. We have something more important to talk about.
The one thing I would love to eradicate is that if you are eating junk/unhealthy food or just eating a lot in general that people say it's "the fat person" in them or that they are "being fat" right now.
Excuse me?
I didn't get the memo that enjoying food, eating stuff that is not good for anyone, or eating a lot of food was only exclusive to "fat" people. So skinny people or "healthy" people don't enjoy food too? It's a shameful thing to say. It's not about being fat or skinny, it's about being healthy and being comfortable in the body or skin you are in. It's also offensive to someone who is on the heavier side. If you are being fat or this is the fat person in you and we are both eating something junky or unhealthy together, what the hell does that make me?
Is it the "fatter person" in me? Am I being "obese" right now?
See where I am getting at?
If you made a choice to eat something, live with that choice and...shut up! I didn't force you and no one else did either. Unless you have an eating disorder (which of course means we have to deal with this situation differently because the mindset is different), you have no right to misuse a state of being as your word choice, just because you chose to eat something you knew you shouldn't have.
You are not doing something that is "fat". You are making a choice that you now feel guilty about. A choice that doesn't mean, “Hey I'm fat now.” or “I have to control being fat.” As a person who is fat, I'm still fat whether I am eating fries or a salad.
There's no “I'm being fat right now”.
There's “I'm eating.” Because that's what all of us need to do!
We have to eat to survive. How much we choose to eat is a personal choice. Labeling that choice as something negative, using a description of a person that is a reality to hundreds of people around the world is not okay. I need to be healthier, but I'm okay with being fat, fluffy, plus sized, whatever you want to call me. That doesn't mean that I'm okay with someone using fat as a way to describe how much food they are eating.
Think about that next time you are making a food choice that is not right for YOU. Especially if you are eating with someone who is always fat like me.
It really is enough to say “I ate too much right now”.
Trust me, so did I! Good tasting food will do that to you.
Till next time,
#theycalledherbravenewgirl